Middle kid-itis, ever heard of it? I was surprised to find that it is an actual thing in our culture. Middle kid-itis is also known as middle kid syndrome. It comes from the oldest being first. The oldest gets all the privileges of being the oldest. While at the other end of the spectrum, the youngest has the honor of being the baby and tends to get spoiled. Typically this leaves the middle child feeling insignificant and inadequate, or not enough and not worthy. (I mean no disrespect to my or any other parents of middle children.) This is something that has been studied, it’s true. I don’t think parents do it on purpose; it’s just how it works out.
Growing up as a middle child I can’t tell you how often I felt like I wasn’t enough. I was too young or too old, not smart enough or too smart for my own good, and the
always “stop bugging your sister” and “be nice to your brother.” Being the middle kid is a blessing and a curse. On the blessing side, we have the unique privileged placement of being a younger sibling and an older sibling. On the curse side, we have the unfortunate placement of being the younger sibling and the older sibling. So often I felt ignored and passed over. It is something I carried with me in life for a long time and I still have flashbacks when I’m with my family. Today, I know that I am loved and enjoy the honor of God having placed me in the middle.
ARE WE ENOUGH?
Inadequate, a word I have heard ringing in my ears often. The words you are not fill in the blank enough, were common in my life when reading between the lines. I can only recall one time, one person, literally told me I wasn’t enough. For me, it was ‘you are not smart enough.’ At the risk of bragging: I have a master’s degree, yet I still have days when I’m not smart enough.
When I play games with my family and I lose, for me it’s not just a loss, it’s a reflection on my self-worth and my intelligence. We play a lot of games, so I am putting a lot of effort into bettering my attitude. The common theme in my life is I’m not smart enough. However, with each day I exercise my enough-ness, I grow stronger in my purpose and self-worth. Nevertheless, I have found it helpful to also remember the humility that comes with being not quite enough.
While studying up for this post, I found an article that gave me another perspective on this topic. Essentially, the author stated that we are not enough and that we will never be enough. As I struggled through the article, I reached the end where the point was made that alone we are not enough. Alone, we will not accomplish nearly as much as we could together. More specifically, without God, we are not enough. In fact, without God, we don’t exist, but that’s a post for another day. However, with God, we can do amazing things. In Ephesians 2:10 we are told that we were created for a purpose, by God. Not only that, He created us and the opportunities for us to do good in advance.
Created By God
God never intended for us to live life without Him. For me, if I didn’t have God I would not have written this post for you. Without God, dare I say it … I would not be alive right now. The shouts of inadequacy have been near-death sentences at times in my life. Praise God! For His love, praise Him! Praise Him for His truth! Because His truth is that He made us each for a reason. For some of us, it is as simple as lovingly raising children. For others, He made to lead countries. However, He never made a single person to live without Him. Yes, some people choose to not to, but I am so glad that He made me and He and I choose each other daily.
I DON’T KNOW IF WE’RE ENOUGH
To be completely honest, I don’t know if we truly are enough. But please ask yourself: what standard are you comparing yourself? How do you determine that you are not enough? Are you enough to get to heaven? Well … no; at least not by yourselves. Without the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, the perfect lamb, who shed His blood for us on the cross, none of us will see the glory that is heaven.
I’m not sure whether someone is smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough, or tough enough should matter to us because God is enough. He made us enough for the purpose He created us for. So, I guess, it doesn’t matter if I’m enough. God is enough. He is enough for me. He always loves me just the way I need it and shows me His love just when I need it.
WE ARE WORTHY
Regardless of enough-ness, to our Father, we are worthy of His love. He made us worthy. He took the time to create us to be us. There is a special blueprint, designed by God, with your name on it. If He didn’t think we were worthy of Him, He would not have made us. He would not have sent His son to die on the cross for us. Don’t get me wrong, there are choices we make in life that are not worthy of God. The actions we commit that stain our souls and damage our relationship with Him are what make us not enough, and diminish our worth in our eyes. That is why we need Jesus. Our souls, the essence of who God has made in us, are worthy of His love.
How do I know that we have worth to God? Jesus. If you read Luke 15 you will see how everyone has worth to God. In the first couple of verses, we see the Pharisees and the teachers of the law gossiping about Jesus because He had been eating with tax collectors and sinners. (P.S. “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:23). Jesus tells three parables that show the value of just one of His:
- The Shepherd and His Lost Sheep. V.3-7
- The Parable of the Lost Coin. V.8-10
- The Parable of the Lost Son. More commonly known as the Prodigal son. V.11-32
The first two demonstrate caring people who did everything to retrieve what they lost because that one item was a precious treasure. The third parable tells the story of a caring Father, who would have done anything to keep his son. However, the son still chose to walk away. Thankfully, the son returned. When he returned, what joy the father had. He celebrated and rejoiced at the son’s return. The father loved his son very much. But the key verses are at the end of each parable:
I tell you that in the same way there will be more rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine persons who do not need to repent. V. 7
In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence ofthe angels of God over one sinner who repents. V. 10
But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found. V. 32
He Would Do It … Just for You
Jesus chose to eat with the tax collectors and sinners. He chose to die on the cross so all could have the opportunity to be alive again. Because of Luke 15, I believe that if I was the only one in all of His creation that needed Jesus to die on the cross so I could live again … He would do it. He loves me that much. I am worth that much to Him. So I say the same to you …
If you were the only one in all of God’s creation who needed Jesus to die on the cross so you could live again … He would do it. He loves you that much. You are worth that much to Him.
To be honest, this post did not turn out the way I intended. Then again, I did give this blog to God, and He can do with it as He pleases. So I pray that this post is what He wants to tell His children. Also, I hope that the conclusion I came to was one of encouragement. By ourselves, we are not enough, with Jesus we are. To God, we are worthy of His love and He does love us. My God made me a middle kid for whatever reason and I will hold my head up high and own it. I love my big sister and my little brother. I would not have them or me any other way.
Have a blessed day y’all
Ephesians 2:10 – For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good words, which God prepared in advance for us to do.